Monday, September 16, 2013

Large Families!!

The topic of large families seems to be popping up in the media again lately so I thought I'd put my 2 pennies worth in.

I'm not a massive Daily Mail fan but I do follow the Radford family who are in the paper today as they are expecting their 17th child. SEVENTEEN! Wow! You may have seen the Radfords on 16 Kids & Counting a few months back, I watched it and was in utter awe of the families on there. I knew of the Radfords as my son was due the same month as one of her children and we were part of the same online bump community. 

I always imagined I would have lots of children, I couldn't imagine anything nicer than a troop of little ones, a close, loving family who help each other & look out for one another. Of course I imagine there would be rows and plenty of struggles but you get that in any family regardless of size!

As my life has panned out I think we will be sticking to 2 children, not that I don't want more or couldn't handle more. I'd keep going until I had to stop if I could but my body doesn't cope well with pregnancy and having spent the last few years suffering chronic pain & fatigue it's just the sensible thing for us to stop.

The media cause a stir about large families and the affect they are having blah blah blah but you know, they will always find something to report and hand out the wooden spoons. You see a lot of ignorant views flying around when the subject of large families comes up but the truth is only the families themselves know the ins and outs of how their family & home run. Who is anyone else to judge? 

Another large family I follow are the Sullivans who were also on 16 Kids and Counting. When I first read about the Sullivans the thing that really interested me was that the children are home educate, something I had always wanted to do but wasn't really sure if I could do it, what reactions I'd get for doing it and how it would affect my family. It was seeing how well the Sullivan family coped with Home Ed that encouraged me to look into it properly for my family and I am so glad I did that as my husband and I spoke about it and realised it was something we both wanted, after all we had been educating our children so far so why not carry on?

I guess what I'm saying is if a couple want to have one child or 20 it really shouldn't matter to anyone else as long as the children are loved, cared for and provided for. No doubt there will be people who disagree with one child families as much as there are people who will make a fuss about large families. In the world of parenting there is very little that people won't have an opinion on, you can't please everyone so there will always be someone with a complaint. I suppose it'd be boring if we all agreed on everything but I would like to think we can all agree that happy children & happy families is the important thing, regardless of size. 

* Day 1 of the 30 day blogging challenge - topical

Update: Since writing and publishing this post the Radford family announced the very sad loss of baby #17. My condolances to them all xx

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